#66: How your Enneagram type impacts how you parent [Grace in Parenting series]

How does your personality impact your parenting style? Where do you shine and struggle in motherhood? What are some God-centered habits to help you along the way? What do you do when you wonder why God made you a mom with all your flaws, twerks, and preferences?

Sweet friend, I hope this episode — the first in our Grace in Parenting series — brings you comfort and a whole lot of joy as you recognize how beautifully God knit you together as a human, and how perfectly He placed your children in your family, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Because let’s be real: We all have days when we wonder what God was thinking when He made us a mom.

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

Where your Enneagram type shines in parenting,
Where your type struggles,
And where grace meets you.

Sweet mom friend, God 100% knew what He was doing when He matched you and your children together. He could think of no better person to raise your child than you:

You with your short temper, and your love of clean countertops, and your desire for everything to go according to plan.

May this episode shed light on how awesome you are as a mom, how much you need Jesus as a mama, and how you can practically give yourself grace as you parent.

If you take nothing else away from this episode, please know this:

You’re doing a great job mama.

Stay true to the type of mom God created you to be. You don’t need to be like your best friend, sister-in-law or mom. The comparison game can end when you know God delights in how He made you

Your children need you to be who God created! When you realize you don’t have to be like every other mom on the block, but uniquely you, the joy in parenting will explode!

If you’d like to skip to your type or the type of your spouse, here are the approximate timestamps + a parenting book list curated for each type:

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Type Eight

6:25
It’s OK Not To Share by Heather Shumaker
Nurture by Nature by Paul Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger

Type Nine

8:40
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel
Bringing up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman

Type One

11:08
Sacred Ground, Sticky Floors by Jami Amerine
Love Does by Bob Goff (there’s also a kids version!)
The Wonder Weeks by Xaviera Plas-Plooij, Frans X. Plooij, and Hetty van de Rijt

Type Two

13:56
How to Talk so Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (there’s also a teen version)
Loving Your Kids on Purpose by Danny Silk

Type Three

16:24
Triggers by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
Give Your Kids a Break by Kim Fredrickson

Type Four

19:40
The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman
Are My Kids on Track? by Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan

Type Five

21:29
The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell
The Enneagram of Parenting by Elizabeth Wagele

Type Six

23:44
Walking with God in the Season of Motherhood by Melissa Kruger
It’s All Under Control by Jennifer Lee

Type Seven

26:29
Sacred Parenting by Gary Thomas
Confident Moms, Confident Daughters by Maria Furlough

Key Quotes

When I discovered my Enneagram type, I finally understood why motherhood challenged me so much and what strengths I brought to it.
God 100% knew what He was doing when He matched you and your children together.
Stay true to the type of mom God created you to be. You don’t need to be like your best friend, sister-in-law or mom. The comparison game can end when you know God delights in how He made you.
Your children need you to be who God created! When you realize you don’t have to be like every other mom on the block, but uniquely you, the joy in parenting will explode!