INSIDE: Have you ever wondered how the Enneagram can improve your marriage? Listen to Beth McCord as she breaks down how to use this tool. 

The first time I ever saw Ryan McCormick was the first day of summer band during our freshman year. He was the cutest boy I’d ever seen.

It wasn’t until our junior year of high school that his guy friends started hanging out with my friends. We all had so much fun on band trips, going to Bennigan’s and Chili’s, and watching movies together. Ryan and I didn’t start dating until our senior year after we’d been friends for over a year. 

By spending time together, I realized how different we were. We both loved Jesus and our friends fiercely, AND ALSO,

  • He was shy. I… am not.
  • He is a man of few words; I’m a woman of plenty.
  • Ryan approaches life logically while I wear my emotions on my sleeve. 
  • He plans so well for the future; I sorta assume it’s all going to work out. 

So yeah, very different people who love each other very much, who look at the world through different colored lenses.

You don’t need me to tell you that seeing the same situation through a different lens can cause friction. So what do we do with this? How do we grow in our marriages without getting super annoyed at someone who sees life differently?

I can think of no one better to speak about offering grace in marriage than today’s guest, Beth McCord.

In today’s episode, you’ll receive practical strategies and anchoring truths for receiving grace by learning how the Enneagram can improve your marriage. You’ll learn:

  • Four ways the Enneagram can help your marriage,
  • How the messages you picked up in childhood impact your marriage today,
  • And how the Enneagram helps in conflict.

Four ways the Enneagram can improve your marriage

  1. You’ll experience increased self-awareness.
  2. You’ll become quicker to forgive.
  3. You’ll learn to see the world through your spouse’s eyes.
  4. You’ll offer more compassion.

Two ways the Enneagram can improve communication in your marriage

  1. You avoid “assumicide,” a.k.a. making assumptions.
  2. It reminds you to seek clarity. 

Three ways the Enneagram can improve handling conflict in your marriage

  1. You’ll experience increased self-awareness.
  2. You have clarity by looking at the world through your spouse’s lens.
  3. You navigate your own heart and can communicate with your spouse with clarity and assurance.

Four ways to avoid using the Enneagram as a weapon

  1. Don’t use the Enneagram as an excuse for your behavior.
  2. Don’t hide behind your weaknesses.
  3. Ask the Lord to transform you into His image.
  4. Apologize.

Quotes about how the Enneagram can improve your marriage

  • “The gospel is what really transforms us. And when you understand at the core of your fears, longing, and weaknesses for your personality type, you can then bring the balm, the healing power of the gospel to those place, and offer it to one another.” – Beth McCord
  • “When we believe and act upon our assumptions without getting clarity, that’s when it can harm and destroy relationships if we don’t course correct.” – Beth McCord
  • “Once we understand each other’s perspective, we could then navigate with much more clarity and not react from a false perception.” – Beth McCord
  • “We don’t want to use the Enneagram as a sword or shield.” – Beth McCord
  • “Use the Enneagram to point yourself back to the good news of Christ.” – Beth McCord

Quotes about receiving grace

  • “I can still be okay because Christ satisfies my core longing.” – Beth McCord
  • “I don’t want to hide behind my weaknesses.” – Beth McCord
  • “Watch God do the work in and through you.” – Beth McCord

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